Thank the Bees for Pysanky

When I was a small child, my class went to visit a museum devoted to many different cultures. It was made up of a cluster of small cottages, with each dedicated to a different culture; such as Denmark, China, and Hungary. Yet, the House of Ukraine stuck out to me the most when I looked upon a basket of ornate and fantastically decorated eggs on display. I was so ecstatic about these pretty little eggs throughout the rest of the day and until we all went home. I remember when I tried to tell my mom about these eggs with unique lines and brilliant colors that my younger self couldn’t properly explain, and there was no computer to look up proof of these Easter wonders as the internet did not exist – it was the early 1970’s. So, that fantastical image of the decorated eggs sat in the back of my mind for years and years, until one day when I was home from college.

It was spring break; as I recall, I had left college and returned home to visit my family. My high school friends came over to hang out and ended up taking me to some sort of bazaar or fair that I can’t quite recall the name or proper title of. Several booths of artisans, crafters, and self established little businesses filled the gym of this local college where I encountered a wonderful ghost from my past. This lady there was decorating eggs, just like the  ones from when I was a kid.I was so happy to see them took it upon myself to learn of these neat little wonders. One of the coolest things I remember she was using beeswax to write designs on an egg. “It has to be beeswax. No other wax will work.” She told those of us watching. What I know now is that other waxes paraffin or soy do not have the properties that beeswax has and they won’t seal the egg or come off the egg cleanly at the end. Beeswax has very unique properties that are gentle enough to not harm the egg shell.

My bored friends drug me away before I could learn more. It was the late 1980’s and information still was’t at your fingertips like it is now. When I went back to school, I was so busy with classes and work, that I quickly forgot about the eggs again.

Later on in life, I popped into the bookstore, looking for a recommended title on parenting, and saw a book on decorated eggs. From the sublimely simple to the gloriously intricate, the book was dedicated to Eastern European egg art. Ukrainian pysanky, Polish pisanki, Croatian pisanici, Sorbian pisaci. The book called to me, but my time and funds were limited, so I put it back, and got the book I had come looking for. With three small children and a full time job there was not time for such a luxury. I was so busy keeping up with day to day life, and my thoughts of eggs were put aside again.

Since then, computers have brought the world to our fingertips. I’ve learned that most countries in Eastern and Central Europe have egg decorating traditions, and these traditions have a few things in common. The eggs are prized possessions, and often given as gifts, meant to bring luck or protection to the owner. Many of the motifs, patterns, and colors have traditional meanings; such as green meaning spring, hope, and growth and purple meaning fasting, faith, patience, and trust., ect. Many of the cultures that make the Pysanky eggs happen to keep similar traditions. The craft is passed from one generation to the next, with many families having their own recognizable style. Almost all of them are made using a wax-resist method, and all of the wax-resist methods rely upon beeswax.

Beeswax is necessary for the wax-resist methods because it adheres well to to egg shells; doesn’t crack, rub, or scrape off; and fills in even the fine pores of the egg shell. Other waxes either don’t stick well or don’t fill the pores of the eggshell. This means that only beeswax keeps the colored dyes used in the wax-resist method exactly where you want them to be. Only beeswax can give fine crisp lines and; when done, the beeswax melts off, without causing discoloration to the egg.

The kids are much older now, but life isn’t any simpler. Now, we keep bees and make and sell beeswax and honey body products. There still isn’t much spare time. But I do get to make my own colorful creations using beeswax. They are not eggs they are our soaps and without it, our products just wouldn’t be the same.

Neither would the decorated eggs of Central and Eastern Europe.

 

Been There, Done That- Portlanders, Why Not Liven Up Your St. Paddy’s Day?

Parades, festivals, corned beef and cabbage, green beer, pinches for those who don’t wear green, and don’t for get the parties. These can all be great fun!

But what if you feel like ‘Been there, done all that.’

Are you tired of the Same old, same old on St. Paddy’s Day?

 

How about something new this year.

 

Imagine a place where you can go that has fun and excitement all day long on St. Paddy’s day.  We’re talking samples galore, including food and drink, ‘How to’ demos, activities that you can participate in, lots of goodies that you can peruse, and take home with you- if the fancy strikes you. There will even be St. Paddy’s Day prizes.

 

What am I talking about, you ask?

 

Why; it’s The Woman’s Expo -right here in Portland- at the Oregon Convention Center, Saturday, March 17th – AKA St. Patrick’s Day.

Don’t let the name fool you- it’s isn’t just for those of the female persuasion. Fun can be had here by everyone -even kids! So, why not try something new? We’re going to; maybe we’ll see you there.

 

Still not sure? Check out their Facebook page, Groupon page, and website for more info. If you were wondering, The Woman’s Expo is one of two yearly fundraisers for The Portland Women’s Resource Initiative, which is an Oregon 501C3 organization.

 

Oh!  And before I forget – Mentioning this blog post at our booth will get you a free gift.

So; throw on some green this Saturday, and come check out the Woman’s Expo!

The Nose Knows

Who’s heard of patchouli? If you lived through the 60’s and 70’s, you probably recognize the smell of patchouli, even if you aren’t sure what it’s called. That’s because many Hippies were very liberal in the use of patchouli oil. Some people say that the Hippies liked it because patchouli covered the scent of body odor. Others said it was so popular because it covered the scent of weed. Either way, they used lots of it.And its use seems to be making a resurgence, not just with Hippies, but with people from a large cross-section of society.

By now, if you’ve never smelled it, you are probably wondering just what patchouli smells like.  To me, it has a very noticeable, pungent, loamy smell. But, that may not be how it smell to you. I say this, because in selling our body products over the last several years, we have noticed that some people really like the smell of patchouli. Others absolutely despise it. And believe it or not, there is even a small percentage of people who say they really can’t smell it at all.

 

How can that be? Why do some people like some smells, while others don’t? Turns out there are some really good, scientific reasons.

The first reason has to do with genetics. There are about 400 genes for olfactory receptors in the human nose. The genes vary from person to person. With 400 genes, there are about 900,000 different combinations of genes a person can have for their scent receptors. different combination of genes ‘smells’ a scent differently. That means that there are many different smells for each and every scent. The smell you experience when you smell a rose is different then the smell the next person experiences when sniffing the exact same rose. Some people have a pleasant experience when they sniff the rose, but some find the scent offensive.

The second reason has to do with our brains and how they are wired to receive sensory information. Smell information is the only sensory information transmitted to the hippocampus and amygdala, in the brain’s limbic system. The limbic system is associated with emotions and memory, which in turn, influences how we react to the scent. The first time you smell a particular smell, the memory of the scent gets intertwined with emotions and memories of behavior and feelings of nostalgia. Because these neural connections are formed at the same time, they are intertwined.This makes scent the most powerful sense for triggering emotions and memories, and evoking feelings of nostalgia, or even deja vu.

 

I know about that first hand. I can remember being a kid in Billings, Montana. The neighbor down the street had a lilac bush that was as big as the side of their house. During the summer, whenever it was breezy, you could smell that lilac bush for blocks.

 

Now, 40 years later, whenever I smell lilacs, I get a contented, carefree feeling, just like I did when I was a kid, playing with my friends.

What about you? Do you smell things differently than your friends and family? Why not give it a try and see if you have any unique little quirks to your smell registry? Then; if you learned something cool, share it with us either here on the website, on facebook, or even instagram with #MoreBees. We would love to hear about it either way you all want to share it.

Seize the Magic

Depending on whether you go by the  meteorological definition or astronomical definition, you have anywhere from one week to three weeks, but either way, the official end to winter is in sight.  Right now, you’re probably sick of it if you live in an area still in the grips of winter. But in a few month, you may just miss it. So, take some time over the next week or two to get all those winter activities out of your system.

And no, I’m not talking about shoveling the driveway.  

 

I’m not even talking about the big, fun stuff. Things like skiing up on Mt Hood, which can actually be done well into the spring most years. (Downhill skiing goes into April or even May, and cross country goes into March). Even tubing/sledding can be done on Mount Hood well into March or April. Then there is ice skating, which can be done at several area rinks year around. These are fun, but they’re not the things I’m talking about.

 

I’m talking about the fun stuff you do at home, or in your neighborhood. The fun stuff that takes very little money to enjoy. What that fun stuff is, depends on who you are. It’s different for different people, but most of us have things we love to do that they can only be done in the winter. Like making a snowman, having a snowball fight, or building a snow fort with your kids or friends. And, yes, adults CAN do these things. We’re ALLOWED to, and they’re FUN.

Yet, there are more subtle things you could miss like an invigorating walk amidst the cool air and crisp snow. Perhaps even a stroll through the hushed falling snow, the soft sound enveloping you as the world around you seems frozen and peaceful.  Maybe looking out a window or staring up from a the field of snow around you to enjoying the bright yet  delicate blue that can only be found in a clear winter sky.

One of our favorites is taking outdoor winter pictures. Snow and ice can turn even the most mundane things magical. They can transform the ordinary into the extraordinary. And with smart phones, we can all take part in this activity.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lest forget all those things that can be done year round, but seem to be best when done in the cold of the winter. Like having a steaming hot mug of spiced cider, or rich hot chocolate stirred with the last of the candy canes. Snuggling deep down in the blankets on the couch while watching a movie with that special someone. We especially can’t leave out  basking in front of the fireplace, while you read your favorite book. All these things seem to be even better with the pervasive chill that goes while winter is still in the air.

Remember; there is less than a month -either way you look at it- to enjoy the wonders of winter and the chance it has to make memories with those you love. Time ticks away and the snow is melting; so what are you waiting for. Carpe diem, carpe vitam. Seize the day, seize life. Go out there and explore the magic of winter before the dawn of spring comes.

Murder Mystery Dinner

On February 15th, there was a murder.

It took place in Downtown Portland, at the Old Spaghetti Factory where my husband and I went to dine, with friends.  We were called upon to help solve the crime, and so were our friends.  One of them was even implicated as a suspect!  We had a blast! Mystery dinner theater is so much fun!

 

If you have never been, you should give it a try.  Most major cities, and many not so major ones, have dinner theater troupes.  Just look up “mystery dinner theater near me” on the internet to find your nearest options. Ticket prices may seem high, until you consider that you are getting dinner and a night of entertainment all rolled into one.

 

The experience varies a little by theater company, but some things are the same.  Your ticket usually gets you dinner and dessert, as well an interactive mystery performance.

 

Beyond that, things start to differ. Some shows are set in the here and now.  Others have a theme and you can dress up if you like. The one we attended, put on by The Murder Mystery Company, was set in the 1920’s, and the majority of the diners were dressed in some semblance of 1920’s dress. In some troupes, the performers are hidden amongst the other diners, in others a handful of clearly labeled actors help set the tone.  Either way, the paying diners are lead through the murder mystery to solve the questions of who committed the murder and why.  Who knows, it could even be you! Some troupes give prizes and/or certificates to the diners for solving the crime and/or for their performance and participation in the mystery theater.

Things to know:

  • Usually tickets must be purchased in advance, before the night of the show. Most shows sell out, so don’t wait too long to purchase tickets, or you may miss the show.
  • Some shows have a minimum age, so if you would like to take minors, make sure to check the minimum age, before purchasing tickets.
  • While your ticket gets you a 3-4 course dinner (exact number depends on the troupe), drinks are usually extra.
  • You usually get to choose between 3-4 entrees, and most troupes allow special requests for those with special dietary needs, but they need to be made in advance, when ordering tickets.
  • Some troupes prepay tips to the servers and/or the actors (two distinct, different sets of workers).  Check web sites to see if you will be encouraged to pay one, the other, or both gratuities, so you are not caught unawares.
  • Most have a bar available, but you will have to pay for your drinks. The bar is often cash only.
  • Most locations have an ATM on site, but not all. Check in advance, so you can plan accordingly.
  • Some theater companies have different levels of tickets, others have add-on packages, so read the web material provided before picking which tickets/add-ons are right for you.
  • Plan on being at the venue for about 3 hours.

 

Why not treat yourself, loved ones, and/or friends. We had a blast with great food and wonderfully engaging entertainment. We are sure you will too. Find all your fellow mystery lovers and see if you can crack the case as we did; even tell us about your experience. You can post your story below, let us know on facebook, or use the hashtag #MoreBees to share your night or murder and mystery.

The Countdown to 2018

Are you gonna stay up this Sunday for the countdown to new year 2018? Yes you are!!! And we hope you have an epic time! Live it up enjoy 2017 to the last and final minutes. It will not come again and for lots of us it was a great year. But when you wake up on Monday morning or afternoon you may want to consider the meaning of a new beginning, or water and aspirin to calm that throbbing headache. I know that is not all of us but saying goodbye to the year is a reason to celebrate and it is also a reason to look forward to the new year. On Monday morning as the sun shines on a new year and a new day most of us will will be ready to make a resolve to become a new and better version of ourselves. Perhaps you have fitness goals to lose some weight or gain some muscle. Maybe it is to be a better friend, coworker, neighbor, or family member? Whatever it is, we hope you conquer your challenge. That you climb your mountain and defeat your doubts.

 

Yet; before you try to sculpt a new you in the gym or read up on self-improvement techniques – how about you hear us out and consider our little challenge for this year. They are simple at first; but can lead to incredible positive changes later on. Maybe if it seems too easy, then just take these as an extra hurdle in your race.

 

  1. The “Lemonade” resolution

 

The first challenge is for you to consciously decide right now that when life gives you lemons ( the unexpected, the unwanted, of the truly upsetting) you will, whenever possible, make the best of it – you’ll make lemonade from life’s lemons.

 

That’s not to say that you should blindly accept all the bad with a smile.  Only that you will look for the positive where you can, and salvage what you can.

 

No money to go to the movies this week (average cost for a family of 4 is a whopping $60)?  You can worry about money and can be mad, or you can make a pan of brownies, pop a few bags of popcorn, turn out the lights, and have a Netflix movie marathon.

 

Your wife couldn’t get the week off like you did? You can be mad at the world, yell at your wife, rant about her pig of a boss, brood the whole week you’re off while she works…OR you can view it as an opportunity to build the playhouse you keep saying you’ll make for your daughter.

  1. The “Golden Rule” resolution

 

The second challenge is for you to think before you act or speak. Not about how your actions might make you feel, but about others. Think about how your words or actions impact people and situations around you. Think how you would react if somebody said or did certain things to you.

 

If you wouldn’t like it, maybe don’t do it.

 

Conversely, if you wished somebody had done something when you needed it most, but least expected it, maybe you can do that for somebody else.

Two simple little resolutions that can have a big effect. Try them and see what happens. Not only can you positively impact you and your own life, but you can do the same for those around you. These are small gestures that can make or break a situation, a day, a person.

 

So smile, wave, say hi, say please and thank you. Not just to friends and families, but also to strangers and to workers doing their jobs. Help someone pick up when they drop what they are carrying, instead of heckling them, or acting like they are invisible. Or any of the other little things you have ever wished others had done for you.

Happy New Years from us here at More Bees and we hope you succeed in all your endeavors and challenges.

3 Incredible Facts and A New Way to Enjoy America’s Favorite Squash; The Pumpkin!

Before you could roll up to Starbucks and ask for a Pumpkin Spice Latte, years prior to the pumpkin spice candy corn, and ages before pumpkin spice motor oil – well, jokin on that last one… hopefully it remains a joke… but you never know right? “New Pumpkin Spice Motor oil – smell Mom’s fresh and warm baked pumpkin pie as you drive down the road. Tired of the normal car smell? Well, come on down for our pumpkin spice motor oil and truly embrace the Holidays!” Yeah; seriously, let’s hope that day never comes. But really, before pumpkin became the patron food of the holiday season – we had a pretty interesting history with the delicious squash.

Long before the European explorers came to the Americas, Native people relied on the humble pumpkin; as well as winter squash, to make it through the harsh winters. Pumpkin flesh, seeds, and even the flowers were eaten; then the tough outer shells were dried and used as bowls and storage vessels.

When early explorers returned to Europe, they brought pumpkin seeds with them to grow and show their countrymen.Yet; they actually didn’t see pumpkin as a suitable food for people and had designated our favorite squash to the pigs! Well… and other animals. But -they still gave it to the livestock and didn’t make pies or other yummy pumpkin delicacies!

So; it’s Ironic that when Europeans settled North America, pumpkins and winter squash became an important staple in the early colonies. It was easy to grow, grew prolifically, and the fruits could be kept for months without spoiling, the dried flesh and seeds could last even longer.

Settlers tried to recreate foods that they were familiar with using what was available locally.  For example, cream, sugar, eggs and spiced were poured into a hollowed out pumpkin, then buried with hot coals.This custard cooked in hollowed out pumpkins became the basis for what is the modern day pumpkin pie.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Today, pumpkin immediately brings thoughts of Autumn and Halloween to mind; as well as scores of yummy Thanksgiving and Christmas treats. But don’t just think about pumpkin as a holiday food. There are recipes that can be used any time of the year. For a food many once thought of as unsuitable for human consumptions, pumpkin has come a long way.

Here is one of our  favorite recipes:

Thai Pumpkin Soup with Coconut Milk.  This recipe is soooo scrumptious.  Fresh pumpkin or winter squash can be used, but canned works just as well.  If you don’t care about the soup being vegan, you can use meat bouillon in place of the veggie bouillon. Feel free to adjust the amounts of chili paste, garlic paste, and ginger paste to suit your tastes. You will need the following:

  • ½ – 1 Tbsp crushed garlic
  • ½ – 1 Tbsp crushed ginger
  • ½ – 1 tbsp red chili paste
  • 14 oz can solid pack pumpkin
  • 1 Knorr vegetable bouillon cube, crumbled up
  • 1  cup water
  • 14oz can coconut milk (reserve 1 tbsp for garnish)
  • Juice of half a lime or half a small lemon
  • 3 or 4  green onions, thinly sliced
  • ¼ cup chopped fresh cilantro
  • 1/4 tsp ground black pepper

Whisk together the garlic, ginger, red chili paste, pumpkin, bouillon, and water until well mixed. Bring to a simmer, and add the lime or lemon juice, sliced green onion, chopped cilantro, and ground black pepper. Simmer 4-5 minutes, and serve. Garish with a drizzle of coconut milk and a few spots of hot sauce. Serve over a scoop of rice or with a slice of buttered bread, and a green salad for a healthy meal. This recipe will make 3-4 servings.We hope you enjoy it as much as we do!

The Lights of Nature

As we near the 4th of July, many of us eagerly await the spectacular firework shows we have come to associate with Independence Day.

But did you know that the Earth (and our universe) puts on amazing light shows for us each and every day?

From the skies to the seas, by plants or animals, it is all truly awe-inspiring.

Lights in the Sky:

Aurora Borealis:

The sun is giving off more than just light. It also emits electrically charged particles. When the particles collide with our atmosphere above the magnetic poles of the northern and southern hemispheres, the bright dancing lights of the aurora borealis can be seen. They can be blue, purple, green, yellow, and even red, depending on the altitude of the particles in our atmosphere. Here is an informative link about the aurora borealis.

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Shooting Stars and Meteor Showers:

When we look into the night sky and see a shooting star, what we are seeing is a speck of dust or a bit of debris that has entered our atmosphere. The small bits of matter heat up and glow as gravity pulls them towards the earth’s surface. When the earth passes through the debris trail left by a comet, we gets lots of shooting stars over a very short period of time. We call that a meteor shower.

 

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Many of the showers are predictable annual events. Perseids (PER) is the next big meteor shower and it takes place from July 17th through August 24th. It has an expected ZHR of 100 (meaning a person should be able to see 100 shooting stars per hour) at the height of the event, which takes place on August 12th this year.  Viewing is best after midnight, in a sky free from urban lights, so if you live in the city, consider going an hour out of town to view the event. More information about meteor showers and other astrological phenomena can be found at the American Meteor Society website.

Lightning:

Lightning is a sudden electrostatic discharge that occurs during a thunderstorm. This discharge can occur between electrically charged regions of a cloud, between two clouds, or between a cloud and the ground. It can be fascinating to watch. If you do decide to watch, play it safe.

Never go outside to watch lightning. Stay inside (building or vehicle) with the window’s closed to substantially reduces the chances of being struck. If you find yourself outdoors when a thunderstorm starts, go indoors, or get into a car. Resist the urge to pop open your umbrella, or duck under a tree.  Both increase your chances of being struck by lightning.

Bioluminescence:

Some living organisms produce their own light through chemical reactions that take place within themselves. This is called bioluminescence.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

From magical yellow fireflies, to green glowing mushrooms, to neon blue glow-in-the dark algae, to deep sea animals that make their own light, there are dozens and dozens of examples of organisms that bioluminesce.


 

 

 

 

Wikipedia has a list of organisms that use bioluminescence, and a specific list of bioluminescent fungi, if you want to check out other organisms.

If you don’t like the big man made show with the loud pops and bangs. You can still enjoy one of mother natures amazing shows for free. All of us at MoreBees will be enjoying a toned down local show on the 4th and then some of us will be catching the meteor shower that starts July 17th. I hope you have a safe and patriotic 4th of July. Remember, we fought a war against the most powerful nation on this planet to start a country where ordinary people can choose their leaders and openly express their beliefs. This is truly a day to celebrate our independence and freedom.

The Heat Is ON! Welcome Summer of 2017

It’s Here! And boy- is it going to be a doozy.

 

I’m talking about SUMMER!

Some possibly don’t know, other’s may  have not noticed, but June 21th was the summer solstice, marking the first day of summer and the longest day of the year.

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I found this really cool article from Vox about the summer solstice, and I just had to share. It talks about the science of the solstice (things like why there are seasons, the length of day, time of sunset, etc), as well as stonehenge and its relationship to the solstice, and the upcoming solar eclipse.

 

If the date didn’t clue you in, maybe the heat did. Which brings me to something really important I wanted to mention. This week there has been record highs across the South West  United States, with temperatures in the 110’s and even the 120’s in many places. The temperatures have stressed power grids, fueled wildfires, kept planes from flying, made people miserable, and cost some people their lives.With that, remember to never leave babies, small children, or pets in the car, even for a few moments. Temperatures can quickly become deadly inside a car, especially in this weather. Place reminder notes where you will see them right away (like your work station, the door leading into you house, or the first place you go when you get out of the car) to make sure you have remembered to take any babies/small children, sleeping kids, and/or pets from the car. Even an hour can be deadly in these summer temperatures.

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Be aware of the symptoms of heat exhaustion and heat stroke. Remember, these are serious and life threatening conditions. Heat exhaustion can lead to heatstroke, and heat stroke can lead to death. Don’t fool around. Stay hydrated (drink often, even if you don’t feel thirsty), stick to shade if you can, treat any symptoms if they occur, and call for emergency medical help if you think somebody is suffering from heat stroke.

For more information, checkout this informative link to an article from Accuweather.

 

Please stay safe this summer. Just because it’s going to be a hot one, doesn’t mean it can’t be a great one!

Happy Father’s Day!

Celebrating the Differences in Dad

 

When I was a little kid, we had the special game called “Bear Trap.” My dad would be lying on the couch, and we would attempt to get close, and he would -predictably- “trap” one of us and tickle us. Whoever was caught would try to get away with the help of the other two. There was lots of laughing, rough-housing, tumbling about, and even the occasional crying when things got out of hand. But even if there was crying; it didn’t stop us the next time dad was lying on the couch. This was a game nobody else played with us –  not mom, or family friends, or teachers. Only Dad.

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Now that I’m an adult; and my husband and I have raised kids of our own, I know that my experiences aren’t unique. When it comes to parenting, daddies are different. How they play, how they communicate and interact, how they console and congratulate their children is different than how mothers tend to do these things.

  • How they play: Dad’s like to roughhouse with their kids. Games like wrestling, chasing each other, and keepaway. The ways they play with their kids tend to promote physical development, coordination, and strategy. (Whereas mothers tend to play with toys and games in ways that encourage social and cognitive development.)
  • How they communicate: Let’s be honest. Moms and dads both baby talk to small children. But as the child grows, dads tend to use bigger words, and more complex sentences with them sooner. They also expect kids to respond verbally, as opposed to crying, whining, or using other nonverbal cues, sooner than mothers do. There are other differences too. Dads don’t say as much to their kids, instead tending to interact physically. When they do talk to their kids, it tends to be more directive, like asking a child to do something or giving instruction (moms repeat what they say, offer explanations, and ask questions frequently about anything and everything).  Dads style challenges kids to articulate what they think, know, and feel (Whereas mom’s style is calming.).
  • How they interact: Dads like to interact in less conventional ways. They like to joke, tease, and use humor a lot more often than mothers. As long as the teasing and joking is done in a healthy non-bullying manner, this type of parenting can help kids learn how to deal with the unexpected, which can help them deal with the outside world better.
  • How they console: Dads are more likely to let their child handle their frustrations by themselves for a longer time than moms do. This parenting style, when done healthfully, can help children develop a sense of independence, builds confidence, and helps develop self-help and troubleshooting skills.

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Sometimes these differences come across with dads seeming gruffer or not as nice as moms, but Dads love their children as much. They just show it in different ways. Dads will be quiet and just smile, when they are so proud of the accomplishments of their kids, (first time riding a bike, performing in a play or with orchestra or band, …) Many times they are fighting back tears, not wanting to look weak. Sometimes they act strong to protect their kids, like when their daughter goes on their first date, or when their son learns to drive. Just remember that in those actions Dads are showing that they love you. Sunday is their day and I hope all of you get to say happy father’s day to your dad or to that guy that was the father in your life.

Happy Father’s Day!